Look for the man who will HONOR you regardless of his color or ethnicity. You deserve to loved and cherished, not TOLERATED!
This is a letter on a site from a woman addressing her concerns for bw, being mistreated in their own environments by the men who are supposed to uplift, and care about them. She said it all so well, that I posted her comment as a teaching oppty. I really could not have said it better myself....
Young ladies it is about RESIPROSITY!!! You should not be giving your all to someone who shows you that they have no interest in reciprocating! Someone who has NO interest in a long term, committed and loving relationship. Someone who offers only sex, while you are ardently looking for love. That's foolhardy. Yet, I see this all the time. Bw giving and giving and giving with 0 hope of obtaining what they seek. And I can tell you, that MOST women are seeking a loving committed relationship whereby she can relax, bask in the love of her husband and watch her babies grow! Unfortunately, far too many bm are NOT looking for anything that resembles this picture. Many are looking to use bw as sexual toilets, cash machines, and/or built in laundromats. It's important to understand ladies that any man will act in a less than becoming way if you allow it. However, some men (many of them men of color, unfortunately) actually will deliberately castigate, vilify, and mistreat the women who look like them out of a misguided sense of anger and intolerance because she represents the womb that made him black! I know this is all hard to believe, But SOME black men have internalized their hatred of black, and imputed it upon their racial counterparts. I want you ladies to understand that YOU DON'T OWE UNKNOWN BM A DAMN THING!! YOU OWE IT TO YOUR UNBORN CHILDREN TO FIND THE BEST FATHER AND HUSBAND YOU CAN POSSIBLY FIND, BECAUSE IT WILL IMPACT EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE!! Far too many bw feel an false sense of connection and brotherhood with strangers because they share a skin tone!!! Ladies, this is more than detrimental to your love life, this could easily be quite dangerous to your life! All men must be vetted. NO MAN should just be allowed to come into your life all willy nilly!! Many bw are fooled because bw have always had the backs of black men, but there has been very little reciprocity in their response to bw. I advice you ladies to have the backs of the men (and ONLY those men) who have yours, regardless of color! Below, this woman summed this situation up perfectly....
Her take on it.....
That's another problem! We uplift black men by calling them black kings.
And Alot of them put us down and call us black b......
Black women need to leave black men alone and please stop calling black men Kings.
That is nothing but another build up the black men but don't build up the black women speech I don't hate black men I've been married to a wonderful black man for 28 years and I have a 35 year old black son who is successful and wonderful
But these days alot of black men are not wonderful or successful And they are moving further and further away from black women Black women need to start putting their selves first and their children can either put the so-called black community and the black man at the very bottom of their list or not on their list at all Because the so-called black community and a lot of black men are very toxic to black women and this has been one of the biggest reasons, alot of black women are in the bad state that they are in. They have been manipulated and brainwashed into thinking it's got to be all black or nothing in everything in their lives for alot of black women Like I said before a lot of black men and black teen boys are doing this But there are few black man and black teen boys who still love black women and will treat them right But that is only a few compared to a lot of black men in black teen boys who don't want black women and the black women they get with they treat like dirt.
I'm not trying to offend you by the things I am saying I'm just saying stop giving black man credit We have been giving black man credit, build him up, holding him down, encouraging him, strengthening him, helping him, accepting him with all of his shortcomings, issues, problems and situations, protesting, screaming, hollering, begging, pleading, crying, pushing for the rights and the unequal treatment and the brutality being done to black men, letting them live with us when they are criminals running from the law living with us and not working and not trying to work, etc.... And look how a lot of black men are repaying black women, with abuse murder rape incest hatred making blogs videos and websites about how much they hate us calling us ugly too dark saying no one wants us saying they wish we were dead and saying that they want to kill us This is the repayment of how a lot of black men think and feel about us I know there are a few black women who are rotten too, acting a fool and not doing right. But most black women are trying to do their best and they are not rotten, acting a fool and are doing right and trying their best to live as legally and morally right as a can And black women and black teenage girls have been taught to Vet, black guys but not to the extent that she should have been. For generations and generations, from years and years ago, black women we're never taught how to fully and heavily vet black men we were only told the basics because we trusted and believed that his black skin alone was something we could trust in But this has been to our detriment unfortunately We have been told for generations and generations too heavily vet any man that was not black and not to trust them and for the most part to stay away from them
But we were not taught this in depth because no one taught our mothers and their mothers didn't teach them and those mothers didn't teach them and so on and so on Because we actually thought that we could trust alot of black men and that we could trust them and they will be there for us just like we have been there for them for generations and generations Of course we did not trust black man but we didn't get down to the nitty-gritty of how a lot of them or just downright dirty and very dangerous for us We were taught to care more about the so-called black community and black men and we we're taught that we the backbone of the so-called black community And we should not leave and we should stay there and help to build up and keep together the so-called black community while a lot of black man ran around like childish and violent and dangerous children a lot of black men were not made to have responsibilities to do the things a man is supposed to do because a lot of the black men were not there in the home either because they broke the law and went to jail or they abandoned the wife and children or girlfriend and children and now the scenario is being played out everyday in the so-called black community yes I know there is some black man in jail who are falsely accused and they committed no crime and I also know that some who have committed crimes were given harsher sentences just because they were black so I know this is wrong and not right Before a lot of black men this is not the case and this burden has been put on the black women shoulders by the so-called black community and by alot of black men Which is totally wrong the woman is supposed to be your help she is not supposed to be the backbone
God created men to be that backbone and we were supposed to be their help the main reason why the so-called black community is such a disaster right now it's because the black man is not in his rightful place as being head of the household as God has created him to be and he is out of order and when the head of household is out of order and is not in its right place it trickles down and it causes problems setbacks situations and issues and that's what is wrong with the so-called black community today yes women have been the backbone and the head of household and taking care of everything sometimes out of choice and a lot of times because she has no other choice and sometimes because her man has been convicted unfairly and or given a sentence much harsher because he's black but this is not how God created to be and everything is out of order in the so-called black community that's why everything is so bad and dangerous there black women need to do what black men have been doing for a while Move on without them move away from them and heavily vet non black men before you have a relationship with them....
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