Saturday, September 9, 2017

Should you wait on a man, if the church tells you to??

Sorry, I meant to get to the visual answer, and I promise to get to it, this week, But anyway, I just wanted to talk about Pastors for a moment and talk to you ladies about ministers..
Now, certainly SOME are men of God, and are in it for the right reasons. But I think we all know that some are just trying to use the pulpit to make money and run cons.
It's a shame because so many sisters believe so strongly in their pastors, that they are almost brainwashed. And sometimes the church is the biggest culprit in not letting BW go. I mean go as in escape the hood and obtain better lives for their children. You MUST do what is best for you and your children. Don't ever listen to anyone who is supposedly telling you how to get out of a ditch, if they benefit from you staying in it. The CHURCH BENEFITS FROM YOU STAYING IN THE DITCH! broken, worn, angry, upset, MANLESS< and desperate for help. Now before your crucify me, please hear me. I very much believe in God, and I am by no means casting aspersions upon Christianity. I've been in the church all my life, and I totally understand, how we feel about the church, but ladies please be clear. The church does not nec. want you to get a man and a better life, because they know  many women would then put the church on the back burner, and make that man their priority. On top of that, many women would take their resources and put it toward things like their husband's comfort rather than giving it to the church. I'm sure many of you know by now that 70% of the wealth in the black community in with the WOMEN. For most communities, this is reversed, but you know how our community is..
Anyway, I think one of the most damaging statements I've continually heard in church all my life, is


What's wrong with this statement? Well, to begin with, the bible says 'faith without works is dead'
meaning, you must do the work! You can't just expect God to do the work for you, you must sow your own field, or look for your own job. NO one is going to do the work for you, so if you don't do it. I hate to inform you, but it won't get done.. No one is going to do YOUR work. So if you want a man, you've got to get out there and look for one. You've got to go to places where the kind of man you want, would frequent. You cannot afford to wait on anything you want. Life is just too short.    
And what you want, you must go out and get it...

Have you ever waited on a job until God sent you one? or waited to pay your bills until God told you to? Or waited to go to school, eat, sleep. etc.! I believe God helps those who help themselves. Life is just too short to wait for anything or anyone! I believe we are given common sense for a reason. We are supposed to exercise it. I think the real reason women are being told to 'wait' is because it serves the church's interest. If these women are lonely, depressed and man less, they are docile, easily led and manipulated. Just like sheep. Ever noticed how when a woman's energy is high and she has good confidence, she can laugh off ignorance and is very difficult to deceive? Yet if she is diffident by nature, or temporarily depressed, she is much more gullible and likely to listen to people who do not have her best interests at heart. This is because she is at a vulnerable point in her life. Lately, it seems to me the churches are feeding off of this pain and vulnerability instead of trying to ameliorate it. And if millions of women are going to church praying for a 'good man', why is the church not sponsoring many more 'singles events'? Why are they not telling women forget about a black man and just focus on a good man? We have been going to black churches a long time. And that is a message I have NEVER heard!!! How come black women are doing 90% of the work in the church but all the leadership positions seem to be held by men, with women acting as appendages to them? Why are some churches telling women they are making brothas look bad, just because they are going for their goals? Why are sistas expected to run around like fools wiping the faces of the deacons and bringing them cool drinks when they are already slaving away at home and on the job 5-6 days a week as it is? But most of all I want to know why no one is telling bw to open their options and go find them themselves someone who will love them regardless of his color? And furthermore, why are they not telling the sorry -behind men;
GROW UP!! Stop this foolishness!! Get an honest job-stop selling drugs -Marry your child's MOTHER!!! BE A MAN!!! Why do they continually let sweet faithful bw sway and pray for one of these pieces of men? You need a piece of chocolate-but never a piece of man!
I just don't understand how they can see these beautiful women dying like roses on the vine, and keep deceiving them! I believe God wants us to have life and have it more abundantly. (that's what my bible says) To me abundance = Health, Wealth, and LOVE! I believe they are ALL essential and that in order to have a good life, we cannot skip any of them! As a bw who loves BW. I say if your church is telling you things that cause your instincts to cringe,- take another look. Evaluate what they are really saying, and consider the source and what they have to gain. Do they have YOUR best interests at heart? -Or their own???

Below are some wealth ideas for the Entrepreneurs....

Consult your way to 5000-10,000.00 per month!

If you have specialized knowledge of ANY kind, a great business to start is a consulting business. This is something that can be started from home on a part time basis and can grow as your knowledge and confidence in the business grows. Make sure to pick a subject you absolutely love and one that you will be very interested in continuing to study. One of the main reasons why many businesses fail is because people do not take their interest/passion into consideration. Many people are basically looking to get rich without realizing that it is 5x times harder to get rich in an area you dislike as one you like. Self analysis is extremely important. If you hate kids, for God's sake don't try to open a daycare! You will be a colossal failure. Not to mention the poor kids will suffer. If you have specialized knowledge of a particular thing (or are happy to gain said knowledge) then you can be a consultant. It simply means that you would get in touch with companies in your field, and let them know about your service. with (Ads, post cards, fliers, phone calls, or word of mouth)Keep in mind that WOM is much slower and this would be used as a sole means of advertising only, if you want to build very slowly. An easy way to do this biz is look in the paper for help wanted ads. You can contact these companies and make an appointment. See these people regarding problems they are having with various aspects of their business. Talk about how you can help them with new ideas, implemented strategies, or various other solutions. Talk about SOLUTIONS with them. Tell them what you can do for THEM! Price yourself at about double-triple what they would pay their employees and get to work. Some common business problems are:

  1. 1.Fiscal mismanagement
  2. 2.Employee theft
  3. Overage of overtime
  4. Need to downsize to survive
  5. Need to curtail expenses
  6. Need to meet Labor/Union stipulations
  7. Need to stay competitive
  8. Need to come up with fresh image/logo/sales letters etc....
I'm sure you get the idea. You can find a million problems in everyday businesses. And remember that (or buy on Ebay ) on this subject is called; How to succeed as an independent consultant by Herman Holtz Publisher John Wiley and Sons605 third Avenue New York NY 10158
Get Rich with old family recipes!
Did you know that some of the most popular restaurants in your town are probably so popular because of one or two 'favorite dishes or deserts'! Well it's true. Many of the most popular places in any town usually are known for some specialty, which is quietly making the originator of the specialty rich! For instance. I know someone who makes fabulous fudge. She has been making it for years. Well one day a friend of hers convinced her to let her place some on the counter of her family restaurant. She wrapped it nicely and added labels and neatly placed it near the register. Well the result was instantaneous. People clamored for it and begged for more. Soon other restaurants were begging as well. This lady does not want to go nationwide (although she certainly could) she is a little old lady now making 20.000 per month by selling her fudge to restaurants (in other nearby towns) and making it exclusively for this particular restaurant. You can do this too. Some of the most popular dishes in family style restaurants come from ordinary people who have a great recipe. Careful as this is one that can go so big, you'll feel lost and scared. So get a good accountant and try to control the growth. My father, God rest his soul was a fantastic cook. Even better than my mother (and she's a very good cook) He had a pizza recipe that was out of this world! I have never tasted anything like it. And everyone always said the same thing. Whenever he had a pizza party, as he called them. People would beg, plead and pay anything to get in! Restaurants heard of him and offered him money, shares, anything to get that pizza. Unfortunately, daddy was not interested. I think I have told y'all before my father was extremely talented in many ways, yet totally unmotivated to do anything with that talent. He always promised to give us the recipe, but he never did. To this day, we have made thousands of pizza's trying to figure out how to make them taste like his-to no avail. My point is: It really does not do any good for God to bless you with a talent, you refuse to use. Daddy could have made millions in 25 different ways if he had, had a little motivation and desire to do so. But he did not and so he died taking all that wonderful talent with him.... So just know that I can give you all the business ideas in the world, but if you don't have motivation and desire to use them-they can never work....This is a business you can make millions in if you are willing to work hard. It can grow faster than you would believe. Simply take your special recipe and let restaurants try it. Let them see if it will sell. Take it to several and have a nice looking business card wrapped with each item. (with phone number incl. ) If your phone starts to ring off the hook-honey, you are on your way! Get a good accountant and try to control the growth so that you are not overwhelmed.....
1000.00 per week reupholstering furniture (part time!)
Did you know that you can make up to 1000.00 per week upholstering furniture? Well you can. And it does not require much time to learn the skill either. You can Google furniture reupholstering and get started learning for a very modest amount. With the economy in the shape it's in. Many people want to save as much money as they can. Many people would love to have their furniture 'redone' instead of paying for all new furniture. We recently got a new leather couch and love seat set and it was over 2000.00!! So you can see why many people would love to just redo the old. Now this will require someone who has a love of fabrics, style, colors, etc. IOWs someone who has decorating tendencies and loves to make old things new. People please, if this sounds like slave labor to you, then don't waste money buying a kit. You will not be successful in a business you hate. On the other hand, if this sounds great to you read on. The Modern upholstery Institute will practically walk you through how to get started. With tips, samples ads etc. You can work with homeowners, hotels, motels, offices etc. Businesses are great clients because they really do not want to waste money on new furniture that only customers will use and not family members. You can build this as large as you like and remember you can email me with questions at (this email is for business ideas only, and my readers only...PS, if you want a copy of all the wealth ideas: go to sidebar and follow link that says (Sara's wealth blog) All of the wealth ideas will be there.
Beauty tips for the ladies...
Flaky skin: a great way to control flaky skin is to cut an apple in half and rub half over the face. This will texturize the skin and even the tone while eliminating the flakiness. Once you are finished, rinse. You can also add a little sugar to your palm dampen with water and rub gently over the face-then rinse.
Under eye puffiness:
Fill a clean satin eye pillow (you can easily make some) with buckwheat or lavender. Lie down and cover your eyes with them and take a 15-20 minute rest. When you awake, your eyes will be refreshed and smooth....If eyes are really bad (like from crying all night ) try frozen veggies to reduce the swelling ... And then get whatever making you cry like that out of your life....
Remember to change your make up every few months as the bacteria can build up and cause all kinds of problems. Never share make up, and always wash hands before and after applying it.
Steam stress and toxins away...
Steaming the skin not only is therapeutic, it's extremely health inducing. The reason is that you steam away the toxins that make you look old and tired. By 'sweating' the skin you revive it. A great weekly regimen is to: steam the skin over a bowl filled with very hot water and herbs (like chamomile, lavender or rose. Have a towel draped around your face to keep steam in and gently lower your face and let the pores breathe. (don't get too close, and don't spill the water!) When you are done give yourself a gentle mask and see how rested and lovely your skin looks.....

Some tips for you lovely melaninated beauties...

Would you believe one of the top products many salons use as their natural mud mask is nothing but KITTY LITTER! It is true, they use the kind that has no chemicals and is non clumping. They put it in fancy containers, and charge 60.00 per treatment for it, and most people have no idea, that most of the time it's nothing but Kitty litter!

Anyway, I've never tried it, but just wanted to let you ladies know about that...
Also, this is a great facial mask you can whip up, in no time and it's so relaxing, and feels so good..

Oatmeal /egg mask:
In a blender mix a 1/2 cup of oatmeal to a powder. add 3 drops of almond oil and I egg white blend and use immediately.  Leave it on for 20 minutes. You can relax and read, or listen to some great music..

Tomato Mask:
This is for oily skin: You can mash up a ripe tomato, and add a splash of milk. then apply it and leave it on for about 20 minutes.  When done, rinse with warn (not hot) water..

Banana Mask:
Mash up a ripe banana and add just enough honey to make it a soft pulpy substance.
 Apply it over the face,  (you can also apply this on your hair,)  anyway this is a great firming mask, Movie stars have been using this little trick for years to stave off father time.  In fact, it's so firming, that many have been known to even put it in their bras to firm up sagging breasts...
You can also use just the honey...

So just wanted to leave you beauties a few tips, I will be back in a few days, sorry this post was so long in coming, but I've been so busy, but I will be back in days to answer the questions from the last post...
thanks for coming out, see you soon...

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